Meet my friend and client MB – I interviewed her for this post, but really, I’m actually usually this inquisitive. She didn’t flinch, so clearly she’s used to me by now.
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Me: What is the best thing about having children?
MB: How happy they are. Today Hayden hugged me ten times just because she was so happy. And Ethan has even started crawling up my leg.
ME: What is the hardest thing about having children?
MB: Whining. Whining, whining, whining. And being the disciplinarian. Because you just want to enJOY them. (pause). Oh, and there are no instructions.
Me: What worried you the most about having twins?
MB: That there was only one of me and two of them. And the sudden realization that everything was too small. The car was too small. The house was too small…
Me: What has been easier than you thought it would be?
MB: Logistics – managing them. Feeding, bathing, taking them out…it’s easier than I imagined.
Me: Really? What’s your Mommy Trick to taking twins and a three year old to the store?
MB: Give in. Totally give in – with lots of toys, pacifiers, and juice. Pretty much everything you’re not supposed to do.
Me: How are things different now for you than for your mom?
MB: I’m able to work less. My mom was a single mom and took every opportunity to work. I’m able to take time to make cookies with my kids.
Me: How do you find yourself like your mom?
MB: I hear myself say the same things. And they’re kind of funny. The average person might tell their kids, “Don’t talk to strangers.” My mom would say, “Don’t talk to strangers. Because they’ll take you away. And then you’ll never see me or your family or your friends again.” I say the same thing to my oldest and my mom and I laugh about it.
[we laughed about this for quite a while. the lengths we’ll go to to scare our kids into obeying us. ;)]
Me: What is your prayer for your children?
MB: Gosh, there are so many. That they be truly happy in life. That sounds so cliche. But I never want them to be hungry or heartbroken or want for anything. But I think that’s every mom.
Me: I’ve been to your house several times and it’s obvious by the photos everywhere how much you value them.
MB: Yeah, because those remind me of who the are at that moment in time. If they’re done well, pictures help me remember the way they smelled, the way they sounded, just…how they were at that time. I lost my phone with pictures and video of the twins and I regret it. That’s my piece of advice regarding pictures: develop them, buy them, back them up. And don’t think about the price if you love them. Well, within reason. I am a mother of three, after all.
Thanks for entertaining my questions, Mei. And happy Mothers Day to you every day…